Have you considered foster care?
Not everyone is called to foster. But I personally spend a lot of time – too much time – wondering, how many people feel the pull to foster, but ignore or avoid it, because they are afraid. Afraid to care for children who have “baggage” and “issues” or are “damaged.” Afraid of “loving them too much” or “having to give them back.” Afraid of having to “deal with too much.”
Afraid of getting hurt.
Every time I hear something like this, it infuriates me.
Because I want to save them all. I mean that: I personally want to take every single “unwanted” child and house, feed, clothe, and love on each and every one of them. And – obviously – I can’t. But you know what would make feel a teensy bit better about that? Knowing that there are plenty of other homes out there who will take care of the children I can’t.
And not only do I not know that, but the truth is that I know the exact opposite to be true. There are not enough willing foster homes for all of the children who need them. And all of the above reasons are nothing but selfish.
You are afraid? Afraid of a little emotion? Afraid of loss and pain? What about what these kids go through every single day? Would you look a hurt and wounded and scared child in the eye and tell them they weren’t worth it?
What if it was your child? What if something tragic happened to you, and no one was able or willing to take care of your children? “But these kids are in the system because their parents did __________________ (insert assumptions here), and I would NEVER do anything to get my kids taken away from me!”
Okay, besides the fact that there are MANY reasons children are in the foster care system, those reasons are ALL irrelevant, because it is NEVER a child’s fault that they are in foster care.
You never know what might happen; your children or grandchildren or great grandchildren could end up in foster care someday; and would the fact that they are yours make then any more worthy of a loving home than someone else’s children today?
I know that not everyone is called to foster. But if you do feel the pull to help these children, don’t let your own fear keep you from it.
You’ll never regret helping someone; but there is a strong chance you may wake up one day and regret that you didn’t help.
If you’ve considered foster care, but have questions or just don’t know where to start, feel free to email me at leigh(dot)michaels(at)authorleighmichaels(dot)com.