“T” in 3 Parts – SoCS



The letter “T” stream of consciousness in three parts…


1.  At this very moment, my husband is setting up the Train set we got our “twins” for New Year’s.  I got a really good deal on one of those tables like they have in the children’s section of many Barnes & Noble stores, and it even came with the tracks, train cars, and “extras” (signs and scenery and things).  I was pretty excited to find it, because it’s something they both love every time we visit B&N – which, to be honest, is less often ever since Bug threw a SCREAMING fit when it was time to go because he didn’t want to leave the train set.  I’m not sure who is going to love this set more – them or me, since they hours they are sure to spend playing at it could potentially mean hours of writing time for me (or hours of breaking up fights… only Time will Tell).

2.  Do you make New Year’s ResoluTions?  I don’t.  However, I do use New Year’s as one of a number of times throughout the year when I set some personal goals, take stock of past goals and how I’m doing with them, how we’re doing things as a family, how I want to change some things, new goals that I want to set.  I think a year is too long to keep a goal (or resolution) on the personal radar, and I find that I do much better for myself and for my family if I set shorter term goals and re-evaluate at regular intervals.  The other “set” times when I do this are early May when we wrap up our school year, and early September, when we start school again.  I tend to find myself doing a mini re-evaluation right before Thanksgiving and right around Easter.  Yes, they happen to be holidays, but they also often conveniently mark the approximate middle of fall and spring (admittedly not always).

3.  Have you entered the Goodreads giveaways for my Lies That Bind books yet?  There are three copies of each available, and if any of my blog readers wins, I will autograph the copy (if they wish).  If you enjoy Young Adult and/or Drama, I think you would like both books. The links to both are in this blog post.  Good luck to all who enter!

Happy Saturday!  I hope you all had a fantastic ending to 2014, and are enjoying a great beginning to 2015 thus far!  Enjoy the remainder of your weekend!



This was written for Linda G. Hill’s weekly SoCS challenge.

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Happy Saturday!

8 comments for ““T” in 3 Parts – SoCS

  1. January 4, 2015 at 5:48 pm

    Wish I’d been there with you! I have a knack for helping littles past the bumpy pats of life…one that I developed, naturally, after my own kids were little…

    I often keep stickers or other small things in my purse, to give to young children having trouble in lines. I always smile, at them and their moms, because there’s too much judgment at times like these, and what is needed seems, usually, to be a deep breath all around.

    Our train table has been outgrown, but it provided years of delight, first. The wooden tracks and trains are still here. I asked Annalise, a few days back, if she wanted to keep them, and she was absolutely sure that she did.

    May you all have much much pleasure in them!

    I don’t do resolutions, but I do have annual, quarterly, and monthly goals through ROW80. Posting my progress toward each (with the smaller goals leading into the larger), helps me to keep them on the radar,

    Great post! =D

    • January 4, 2015 at 5:59 pm

      Awww, thanks. I have been working with small children since… I was a small child LOL. This boy is beyond me sometimes. His meltdowns are epic and absolutely inconsolable. I’ve learned there are certain situations that simply have to be avoided, and we use the unavoidable situations as opportunities to work on learning how to work through the meltdowns. I’m also trained in working with special needs children, and I’m fairly certain he’s high on the autism spectrum. He is utterly un-distract-able in 99% of what he’s doing at any given time, including of course, melting down. And thank you for being non-judgmental of other moms. There are so many people who either had no children, or had children with supremely calm personalities, or simply forget what it was like to have young children, who are very quick to give the stink eye. *sigh*

      So far, they are having a blast with the train table! Ladybug hasn’t quite figured out the concept of keeping the train on the tracks, which results in her trains “hovering” rather than moving along the tracks lol. Bug has been nearly impossible to separate from the table all day long. (BTW, I LOVE your daughter’s name :-D.

      It seems I am far from the only who prefers shorter term goals and re-evaluating them on a regular basis. I’m glad to hear that :-). When I tell people, “No, I do not make New Year’s Resolutions,” I seem to get more confused looks than understanding ones.

      Thanks for reading and commenting! 😀

      • January 6, 2015 at 12:30 pm

        In my experience, the people who are the least understanding and tolerant of kids being as they are tend to be people who demand more of very small children than they’re capable of doing themselves…being adult doesn’t mean, automatically, that one behaves well…

        Too many people are quick to judge, to say that they would handle a situation better, and to assume that it’s a parenting issue.

        One of my nephews was diagnosed with Asperger’s. Even in infancy, bright lights and too much noise bothered him tremendously. He doesn’t respond well to crowded and chaotic situations. He’s ten now, but when he was small, he didn’t have many coping skills yet, so things were worse.

        It sounds like you’re taking the best approach you can for your little Bug. That makes me happy. When people look at the actual child rather than their own expectations, then they can see, maybe, an actual PERSON – one who’s struggling in that moment, but not a ‘brat’ or a ‘monster’. Just a small and new person with a lot to figure out.

        It sounds like the train table was a wonderful investment! I know that hover (and the sorrow of having left a coveted piece of track where a puppy could chew it). The nice thing about those tables and smaller kids is that there’s room to explore, so, hopefully, they can both do their thing more or less peaceably…

        Annalise is a compromise name. My Accomplice wanted Annalee, and I wanted Elise. Voila – Annalise! It suits her better than either of the components would, I think – the girl is a veritable Force of Nature!

        I tend to treat goals as a buffet. Because our life is more freeform than most, I like a variety of things to choose from, so I always have something that fits my mod, energy, and what’s happening here. Right now, the guys have gone off to tend to some errands, and we girls are hanging out at home. So I’m answering comments, so that we can chat without my being too distracted by what I’m doing. Later, I’m going for a workout, and, once I’m home and the house settles, I’ll do more in-depth stuff – most likely novel revisions.

        I also don’t do resolutions. I seem to get far more done when I’m not browbeating myself. I’d rather build a set of goals that allow me to delight in what I’m doing, as I move forward…

        It just seems like a lot less energy to move with rather than against, and I’m much more fun to live with, this way!

  2. January 4, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Hi Leigh I love the idea of the train set complete with table. As for resolutions I don’t make them but I do try and reflect and set goals and try and get them to be still current a month from now.

    • January 4, 2015 at 8:36 am

      So far the kids are loving the train table – Bug was up bright and early and playing with it already this morning :-).

      I find evaluating goals in shorter terms is more effective. Sounds like you do the same :-).

  3. January 3, 2015 at 8:46 pm

    I like your approach to New Years Resolutions and goal setting. I think mine is similar.

    Your depiction of a screaming child in Barnes and Noble brings back many memories of my own four boys. Maybe having a train set at home too will help now.

    • January 3, 2015 at 8:51 pm

      I think that particular trip could be a blog post all its own. I swear every other parent in that store thought I was beating my child to a bloody pulp lol. OH, and my other kids had books to buy, so we couldn’t just walk straight out of the store; we had to stand in line (of COURSE there was a line) and then check out while the entire meltdown commenced. SO much fun. 😀

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