Today I had the opportunity to get out of the house with all five kids for an activity more fun than grocery shopping (usually the only reason we get out, at least in the winter). Our local theaters are running a special Disney series for a few weekends in a row, and today’s movie was The Little Mermaid. Everyone had a good time, but Bug was his usual active and antsy three-year-old self. The following thoughts often cross my mind when I have him out in public, or on those rare instances when I am out alone and see other moms with young children and babies.
To the Mom…
In the theater (of a movie intended for young children):
Whose baby was fussy during the movie;
Whose four year old had to go to the bathroom several times;
Whose preschooler kept talking loudly;
Whose toddler kept yelling out because he didn’t want to sit in his seat;
In the store:
Whose small children are noisy;
Whose baby just can’t calm down no matter what you try;
Whose toddler is having a meltdown in the cart, despite the fact that he’s not tired or hungry;
To all of you:
Don’t worry about what everyone else in the store thinks.
Ignore those dirty looks from people that you are sure are thinking, “Can’t they even quiet their own child?”
or, “Don’t they know better than to bring their child here without a nap?”
or, “That child just needs a good spanking.”
IF people really are thinking those things, they’ve obviously never had children, or don’t remember their own children at those ages. And their unpleasant thoughts are THEIR problem, not yours. And if anyone dares say anything, you can just tell them to mind their own business.
For my part, I want to thank you for doing the best you can with your kiddos, all the time, and especially in these difficult situations. Here’s why: every time I see another mom with fussy or noisy or melting-down small kiddos and babies, it makes me feel a little less alone in this Mommy world where feelings of frustration and helplessness and “please-just-tell-me-what’s-wrong-so-I-can-fix-it!!!” are all too prevalent.
So every time I see you, I try to catch your eye and share an encouraging smile.
Because I hope that when one of my kiddos is having a moment like that, you feel a little less alone, too.